5 Days to a New Years Revolution - Day 3 Roadblocks to our goals.
Yesterday we explored fears that arise when we set aspirational goals & how fear is a great signpost to underlying limits in thinking & behaviour.
Today let’s focus on the things that come up to block our goals - the circumstances & people.
Perhaps the structure of your environment, opportunities or specific people may pop up as a reason why things won’t work.
Maybe the opinions of others who tend to focus on negatives or remind you of the risk or this could be somebody who seems to block your progress (nemesis, competitor or even a boss)
These things or people will easily influence our rational brain into believing it won’t work or we are incapable of success.
This deeply vulnerable feeling is a risk to the conscious brain (risk assessment centre) so it will rationalise & find reasons to make it more comfortable eg
We blame or judge the other person or circumstance (it’s their fault)
See reasons why they are more successful such as their experience, direct nature or tactics (Focus is Fertiliser so the brain is searching for more evidence)
Rationalise why they are successful instead of us - ‘comparison is the thief of joy’ (Roosevelt)
Focus on them/ the block instead of us which further highlights our fears & destroy’s confidence
Empower the block making it seem immovable, which disempowers us.
Remember these are normal functions of our conscious mind.
We all experience them.
We are all human.
We can Revolutionise this experience by allowing the subconscious mind to participate in our goals.
Get quiet, maybe close your eyes & give yourself permission to get honest with yourself.
Notice what the biggest block is to your goal.
Is it a person, a circumstance or a thought about your circumstance?
Maybe its a team mate, boss or competitor, perhaps an opinionated family member
Maybe its a toxic workplace or there’s no opportunity to grow
Perhaps you believe you are stuck somehow
Visualise this block in front of you, get a clear sense of how it makes you feel & what is underneath that feeling.
Maybe frustration is sheltering a more vulnerable experience such as being exposed or disempowered.
Could this lead back to fear? If so, refer to day 2 & follow the self enquiry prior to the following reflection questions..
Ask yourself the following questions one at a time with deep breaths and eyes closed.
Has this block or a similar pattern held me back in the past?
How do I react to this block/ person
Who do I become when this block/ person impacts me?
What things does the person say/ imply that triggers or disempowers me?
Who would I be without the block?
Is the block really immovable? Could I move more in flexibility or options?
Who does the block/ person remind me of?
This question is important.
Sit with it and give yourself permission to fully embrace the answer that appears.
Often the person who comes to mind is strongly associated with self limiting beliefs & programming that is being triggered by the current circumstances.
If this block is a person eg your boss, who do they remind you of?
I once had a working relationship that I could only describe as a nemesis situation.
When I explored the reactions I had to the relationship I was surprised at who this person really reminded me of & what real limit was being triggered.
The programming being triggered was completely unrelated to the current events.
Once I UNLEARNED (reprogrammed) the limit I was able to see this person in a whole new positive and productive way.
I could see that we both participated in the block to the relationship, even if I was not behaving poorly I was still reacting & becoming disempowered.
This meant I had plenty of self growth to do.
This meant that my reactions and triggers were doing a great job - signposting me to significant growth past a seemingly immovable block.
This person then became one of my biggest professional growth stories.
The growth I did beyond that ‘block’ became significant in empowerment that would lead to a whole new potential for me.
What is the most significant block to your goal?
This will be the place of significant growth into you next potential & into achieving you goal.