In Loving Memory of My Sister, Karen Van den Hooven

The Twin Thing…

"Double trouble" – a phrase we heard constantly throughout our lives. We called it "The twin thing" when people were fascinated, confused or a bit freaked out by us. Now, I wish it still happened. I'd appreciate those moments so much more than we did.

Our identity was beautifully entwined – my sense of self and my map of the world was half in her and half in me. We shared not just DNA and upbringing, but a profound connection that only identical twins can truly understand.

Karen's Journey

Karen's story is one of extraordinary courage, resilience, and maternal love. What began as subtle symptoms, initially misdiagnosed as uterine fibroids, was later discovered to be Krukenberg ovarian tumours – a secondary cancer that typically carries just a five-month prognosis. Through the dedicated care of Professor David Morris and his peritonectomy team at St George Hospital, we were blessed with two precious years with Karen, far beyond the initial outlook.

Karen faced peritoneal cancer, which affected the cavity holding all her abdominal organs. Her treatment journey included multiple complex surgeries – a full hysterectomy, partial bowel removal, and procedures on her liver and diaphragm. When doctors operated, they found her ovaries had grown to the size of oranges. Despite these challenges, Karen approached each day with remarkable strength and grace.

Throughout her journey, Karen's primary concern remained her two young boys, aged three and seven. She worried about the simplest things that meant the most – whether they would remember her voice, her face, or the depth of her love for them. This profound maternal love drove her to create something lasting for them and other children facing similar challenges.

A Mother's Love: My Mummy Lives in My Heart

During her journey with cancer, Karen's thoughts turned to her two beloved boys. With incredible foresight and unconditional love, she wrote "My Mummy Lives in My Heart" – a touching book to help her children navigate their grief after her passing. The book gently guides grieving children to find and trust the special love and connection that remains after losing a parent. Through its pages, Karen prepared her boys for a world without her physical presence, whilst ensuring they would always feel her endless love.

In Her Own Words…

Through this journey I have learnt to appreciate every single day, every person in my life, and be more present to soak up every little moment, every ray of sunshine, and every word my children speak. I have been given the gift of self-love, I now know how to recognise when I need some nurturing, I can speak my truth and have a deeper connection with myself.
— Karen

Finding My Way Forward

When Karen passed away, I lost the entire blueprint of who I was. Our identities had been so intricately woven together that I had to embark on a journey to discover who I am without her – to find and build my way to who I am meant to be.

Through this profound loss and transformation, I discovered a powerful sense of purpose that remains deeply connected to my beautiful sister. I learned that life is fleeting, and waiting to reach our highest potential means holding back on who we came here to be.

Karen's Legacy Lives On

Karen's influence continues to shape lives through my signature Mindset Unleashed™ framework. Her journey taught us that every moment is precious, and that our potential shouldn't wait for tomorrow. She showed us how to face life's greatest challenges with grace, courage, and an open heart.

The search for growth, whether driven by self-development or a quest for identity, is one I intimately understand. Through helping others reach their highest potential, I carry forward not just Karen's legacy, but create my own – forever intertwined with the sister who helped make me who I am today.