5 Days till a New Years Revolution!
Do you set New Years resolutions?
Resolution, noun; a drastic and far- reaching change in ways of thinking & behaving.
The new year is like a new start, a new chapter, a new us!
For that moment we believe, we decide, we commit to this new way of thinking & behaving.
This moment in time is passionate, aspirational, it’s exciting & bold - we all know this feeling.
I have experienced this moment many times & believed in the resolution as well as my ability to execute.
I have also had this moment slip away from me, along with the goal, the decision & the passion for the big grand sweeping change I was hoping to make.
I am in good company with around 80% of New Years Resolutions failing according to widely published research including Forbes, Harvard Business Review & Psychology Today.
So maybe it’s time we changed our approach?
Maybe the drastic, far reaching change in our thinking & behaving is unrealistic and is at odds with the wisest part of our brain, the subconscious mind.
Perhaps an approach that works with the subconscious will yield more sustainable results & even allow us to self-grow in the process.
Over the next 5 days we will explore your own goals & aspirations with the view of transforming your New Years Resolutions into Revolutions.
Revolution (noun); Oxford dictionary;
A dramatic and wide reaching change in conditions, attitudes or operation
Cambridge dictionary;
One complete circular movement of something eg a wheel, the revolution of the earth around the sun
UK; a big change or improvement in the way that something works or looks, or in the way people do a particular activity
I love the idea of revolution - that each year we circle around the sun, we grow wiser & older, we develop & grow as we learn more about who we came here to be.
Finding mindful & positive ways to set up our next year that aligns with our growth is a great way to mark the beginning of another revolution and can also set us up for great success in achieving these goals instead of having them slip away into the 80%.
What are the 20% of people doing that successfully achieve their goals?
They accept that fear is information & being uncomfortable means you are in your growth zone.
The reasons for failed NY Resolutions is not necessarily the persons inability or even the goal itself.
One big factor is in the way we use our brain.
We approach goals with our conscious/ thinking brain which houses the negativity bias, ego & rationalising of fear.
This part of the brain is more cautious, reactive & takes things personally.
Loss of faith & momentum can occur in the reaction we have to setting the goal or resolution, the fears or self doubts that pop up when we consider the resolution & how we may achieve it.
We become triggered & believe the feeling of fear, unworthiness or inability to achieve the outcome we have set for ourselves.
We are conditioned to believe that discomfort around our goals is
Proof we are not capable,
That fear is an indicator we will fail
The opinion of others’ is evidence of the goal being unattainable.
This social conditioning is the reason why so many people fail, they believe the fear is a stop-gate rather than a signpost to your greatest growth!
These internal fears are perceived as negative, weak & even shameful when in fact they are serving a very important function of the subconscious mind.
The fear-based reactions we have to information such as triggers are hints & nudges from our mind.
As I wrote in Focus is Fertiliser, roadblock’s & triggers are signposts to our greatest growth.
They literally show us where to self grow in order to reach our next potential - which is needed for the goal we are thinking about!
The wisest part of our brain already knows we are capable of achieving what we wish to, it also knows exactly how to grow into the person who can achieve it - this is why the fears arise & feel so strong.
To direct us to the most meaningful place to develop.
Over the next 5 days instead of grand sweeping resolutions we will give your goals a revolution so that you can work with the signposts and grow into your goal rather than needing to adjust them or let them go completely.
Day 1
Let’s begin by allowing one aspirational goal to come to your mind.
Perhaps it is a repeated goal that seems to slip throughout years gone by.
Maybe its a goal you’ve not dared to set
Or this could be a brand new goal that you are challenging yourself with.
Write your goal down, say it aloud or imagine what it would be like to achieve the goal.
Day 1 is about allowing it to surface with all of the passion, excitement & hopes that come with it.
Forget about the how - just allow the aspiration to develop. What would it feel like to achieve this goal?
If any reactions come with it, GREAT write them down so you can explore them over the coming days.
Be honest about the scary goals that keep coming to mind - they want to be explored.
If there is a word that comes to mind around this goal, let that word be the tone of your goal which you aspire to show up as instead of the pressure of a resolution
eg. If we are wanting to create more income, a traditional resolution may sound like ‘to get out of debt’.
The pressure of that resolution could be confronting day to day, showing up with a growth mindset may require a more growth minded dialogue of possibilities rather than the fixed idea of debt we need to get out of.
Perhaps the tone word could reflect the outcome such as freedom, abundance or success which would all lead to to becoming debt free.
Now you have your New Years aspiration & the tone at which you would like to show up for it.
Tomorrow we will explore the next step in your New Year Revolution.
Comment below
What is your Goal?
What word have you set that represents the tone for you goal & how you will show up for it.